Surprise – we are pregnant! We found out in October 2017, so I’ve been toying with the idea of this post for months now. Between the numerous and amazing pregnancy blogs already out there and the thought of “who cares”, it has been an internal debate. However, I want to share my pregnancy story just on the off-chance that someone else might get help or (at the very least) a laugh out of my experience. Worst case? I get to look back on my pregnancy and remember what it was like via my own website! So since it really is a win-win, I decided to take the plunge.
I want to be honest with anyone reading this – I am in no way an expert – just a first time mom-to-be! I want to share my personal experience and I know that every pregnancy is different. If you just found out you are pregnant and are visiting my site, then congratulations! This journey is full of ups and downs and I am so happy for you all!
Trying to Conceive
We began trying to conceive in March 2017, after getting off birth control in February. I honestly thought I would be one of those women who gets that surge of hormones after getting off of the pill and becomes pregnant almost instantly. I was definitely wrong. The months went by and we still weren’t pregnant. Instead, I had to deal with hormone fluctuations and their affect on my skin. Hello, teenage acne’s return. As a couple, there was added pressure and stress to get pregnant, which we all know is bad for baby-making! There was one period of time where we just gave up for that month because my cycles had been weird since getting off the pill, and we couldn’t even be sure the app (Ovia Fertility) I was using to calculate my ovulation dates was calculating correctly.
Now, I know I am making it sound as though we were TTC for a year or more, but that wasn’t the case at all. In fact, the nurse at my doctor’s office even said that it normally takes six months to a year. She said that I shouldn’t worry, but to let them know if it has been eight months to a year or more before they would look into it further. This was in February. I sound impatient and I don’t mean to, but those months we were TTC seriously felt like the longest months ever!
Here were a few of my Google searches during that timeframe:
- How does birth control affect chance of getting pregnant
- Been on birth control for 10 years, TTC
- How to get pregnant
- What is ovulation
- Signs of ovulation
- How do I know if I am infertile
- How do I know if my husband is infertile
Yeah, the questions went from general curiosity to WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? Also, I am embarrassed to say that as a 27 year old female, I did not know that you could only get pregnant within a certain window each month. Go ahead, laugh! 🙂 I know that this all seems ridiculous when there are so many women and couples that have real difficulties getting pregnant, but sometimes you want something so much that you get down on yourself fast when the results aren’t instantaneous. So many people will tell you to get out of your own head and to enjoy the process, which you should! For me it was just easier said than done. Just as there are highs and lows in life, there are highs and lows of TTC. Side note: Prenatal vitamins are a must as soon as you begin TTC or think you may be pregnant.
Positive Pregnancy Test
In September, my coworker (who had given up on getting pregnant with her third – if she is reading this then HEY!) was vomiting every morning and then found out that she was pregnant! At this point, approximately six months after my husband and I began TTC, you might think that I was jealous or upset by this news. In fact, it was the opposite! I was very happy for her and thought it was hilarious that she had been in denial about her morning sickness – saying her husband had been sick, too. My husband and I had finally accepted that we would get pregnant eventually and were doing the whole “well we are not not trying” thing.
About a week after finding out my coworker was pregnant, I began feeling slightly sick to my stomach. This started on a Wednesday and by Friday I decided to stay home from work (note that my fertility window ended that Monday and we TTC that day). All weekend I had that sick to my stomach feeling. The best way I can explain it is by saying I generally felt weird, not 100% myself, and kind of sick to my stomach. Looking back in my Ovia app, where I tracked symptoms, I put that I was feeling bloated, cold and flu symptoms, nausea, gas, and fatigue. When I was still feeling that way Monday morning (October 2nd), I decided to take a pregnancy test before going to work. Why not just rule out pregnancy and decide if I needed to go to the doctor?
Reaction to the Positive Test – You are Pregnant!
Shockingly, the test was positive. I couldn’t believe it! In a way I had definitely not imagined this happening, I woke my husband up and after he said, “What?” I said, “I took a pregnancy test.” He replied with, “Well you wouldn’t be waking me up if it was negative!” Then two seconds later, “Are you crying!?” I was definitely crying. We were so happy, but also disbelieving. I took another pregnancy test after work and as much as we wanted to keep it a secret, we were too excited. Here were a few of my Google searches after getting a positive pregnancy test and before going to the doctor for confirmation:
- How accurate are pregnancy tests
- Spotting and pregnancy
- How long should I wait to take a pregnancy test for them to be accurate
- Took pregnancy test positive now what
- When to call your doctor after getting positive pregnancy test
Seriously, what did people do before the internet? Older women will tell you that they didn’t even find out the gender until the baby arrived due to lack of technology. The night of the positive pregnancy test, I went through my fertility app to try to figure out when I could have gotten pregnant. We took a vacation to Colorado over Labor Day weekend, and during the trip and on the way home I had spotting. I amusingly thought that it had something to due with the road trip or altitude = denial. So was it August? I didn’t have a period in July, was it July? I had so many questions and not enough answers!
Deciding When to Spill the Beans
We told our close families and friends within the week. I know, I know! We didn’t wait the 12 weeks. Mainly because we were too happy and couldn’t hold it in, even though the fear of miscarriage loomed over our heads. That is something every pregnant person has to decide for themselves. Do you want to tell everyone as soon as you find out and risk feeling the need to tell them about your miscarriage OR do you want to tell everyone immediately and have people to talk to and support you if you go through a miscarriage? There is always the option of just waiting the 12 weeks, but that still doesn’t guarantee anything. It is up to each pregnant woman or couple and there is no wrong answer in my opinion! Be warned, the earlier you tell people about your pregnancy, the earlier people will begin commenting on your weight. I’ll get to that in another post. 🙂
Pregnancy Confirmation and More Morning Sickness
The doctor wouldn’t see me until I was 10 weeks pregnant, so after taking the positive test, I still had to wait almost two weeks for confirmation. By the time I actually knew I was pregnant (confirmed by doctor), I was ~10 weeks along. My morning sickness never got severe enough that I was vomiting, but I definitely had nausea during the entire first trimester. Toward the end of the first trimester, I found a way to make myself feel better. Of course, this will not work for everyone, but you might try it out:
- Crackers by the bed. A few in the morning and at night (even in the middle of the night).
- Preggie pop drops (thanks to my sister-in-law for this tip – I’ve recommended to everyone since then) any time during the day when you begin feeling sick.
- Eating something small every two hours. Stick to healthy items! Eating to calm my nausea also resulted in too much weight gain for the first trimester. Crackers are fine, but otherwise stick to fruits and veggies or protein.
- Sips of water frequently.
I hope this helps someone to know that you are not alone in this! Questions that you think are silly are totally normal. Though the internet is a powerful tool, remember that with positives there are also negatives. Don’t go down a negative trail on the internet! Stop! Just don’t do it! Trust me. It is like searching for why you have stomach pain and the answer is actually due to something you ate, but you self-diagnose online and end up with stomach cancer. Save yourself the worry. Also remember that there are so many people on this earth that are or have been pregnant. People do it every day. You got this!
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